The reconfiguration of the Sexual idea

I must admit - however - that my Kinks sometimes sit awefully close to "the Abyss". "The Abyss" being that which is beyond the 'what is still good' line - and that should tell you what I mean. I do however have that Kink to be in some Abyss - which is the bottom of that which is still good; Supposedly. Usually I make the big mistake that as I would be required to take the writing into a certain direction - I take it into some other first; And possibly is that some form of laziness where I simply keep the flow instead of trying to call that which matters to my awareness.
It is however - and that to me is quite important - a matter of my belief that when it comes to dreams, hopes and wishes; That these are to a certain extent reliable. There are - as of my experience regarding flaws and aspirations two kinds; Which is the direction this should go. What else I have on mind is that I have reason to believe that hopes and wishes don't arise ... well - if I'm lazy, my hopes and wishes should be lazy - in some idea - but mine aren't. My expectations are, however. My expectations make me want to finish a thing before its done; And more often than not - and that may a product of my screwage - do I "finish" a thing almost finished, un-usable for me but just a few steps away from being done.

Two Types:
The ones are those that arise from a certain convinction - like being in Love. Being in Love imposes the demand of some at least rudimentary alignment to the one in Love with - where I can imagine that someone with power does in that regard hold different 'hopes' than others. I guess we might call the one way 'Naivity' and the other way - well - "How it works". There isn't much 'individuality' in that - simply because Love ... well ... in the sense demands a certain loss of it. However, that is where we take Love as an independent matter and no way in some way compatible to our individuality.
So is the second type simply that which makes us individual. Or individualities. As I the one way or another am however "supposed to" find its reasons somewhere in the setup of the own psyche is it not entirely self-understood that they are safe either.

From Love I however know Joy and Sandness - and Joy through Sadness. From individuality I know products of influences - and things I do enjoy. It would there only make sense that our Psyche has a certain kind of self-healing mechanism in that Joys help us grow towards ourself to eventually grow beyond whatever 'makes us unhappy' - where our individual happiness is our individual joy in existence and what is individually 'true health'.
The idea I'm having about Enlightened living is that anything can be possible - that we can truly live to our fullest - which does however automatically imply that we are however "tuned into righteousness". If you can't be enlightened because social standards would change and therefore you not happy anymore as you basically gain joy over other peoples misery then, well, that would have to change of course. But without people that are willing to get baptized and get Enlightened its useless to even talk about it - IMHO! Period.